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Up close and personal - 9 Sept 2008
Asleep...

 And awake...

Hidden eyelid (just like daddy)

Smiling...

Ahhh... I want to put my finger into my mouth...

Cosy in the carseat that once belong to Yongren

Up close!

Ooohh

Little fingers

Ahh..  

...aahhhhmmm




Cousin Pearce's 1st month - 6 Sept 2008

Confinement lady, 3 little musketeers and me

Weiren with Auntie Kok  (hubby's aunt)

Daddy, Brothers & Auntie Kok




Weiren turns 6 months! - 4 Sept 2008
Comfy in his favourite chair!
Didi & Gorgor

We are thankful that Weiren is growing so well . See our cheeky big brother, he's happily posing beside his little brother. I'm sure the days ahead will be very colourful!

Grace's Birthday - 1 Aug 2008

Happy ** Birthday Grace! Age is such a sensitive issue... haha... my husband said "Do you know that you all know each other for more than half your life already?" It's amazing. I am truly grateful to God for preserving our friendships for so long, for the fellowship we can even have in our Lord Jesus Christ. I decided to bake a cake for Grace, and it was my first attempt of creating a layered sponge cake for her. As Madshen is pregnant and her sugar level must be kept in control, I decided to keep away from too much chocolate for this. So here comes the Peach Layered Sponge Cake. I'm so happy with the final design of the cake! It was especially for Grace.. moo niu! (Her nickname since sec sch). Still, the cake could be improved, it tasted a little too sweet...
 

"Moo!"

Peach Layered Sponge Cake

Wonderful Spread by Chef Heng

Yummy! Photo with Chef Heng


In case you are wondering, Yes, Chef Heng is Grace's brother. Don't they look alike? Great food at Food for Thought
 

Treetop Walk - 23 Jul 2008

Looking fresh and ready to walk!

"Wait for me, Popo!"

With daddy and mummy

Daddy taking photo of us far away!


Our very first Treetop Walk! Looking down from the bridge is quite a heart-pumping sight as we are so HIGH up from the ground! Fortunately Yongren didn't realise the transparency of the grilled floor and he ran happily onwards. He had so much fun that when it was time to turn back, he didn't want to and continued running forward. Finally he was too tired and wanted us to "bao bao" him back. Poor daddy!  

Here's a sunset photo taken by daddy:


More EXPRESSIONS by Weiren - 22 Jul 2008

"Ahhh Choooooo!"

I may never march in the infantry,
Ride in the cavalry, Shoot the artillery.
I may never fly o'er the enemy,
But I'm in the Lord's army.
(YES SIR!)

HA HA HA!


Weiren smiling? - 20 Jul 2008



Okay, I tried really hard to capture him smiling, and this is the best I could get this morning. Weiren starting smiling early this week (YAY!) He's really cute.

Jiu jiu and Jiu mu - 19 Jul 2008

What a lovely family photo with Jiu Jiu and Jiu Mu! Yongren really looks forward to see his Jiu Jiu on Saturday nights and play "David & Goliath" with him. He as David, and Jiu Jiu as Goliath. So he'll throw something (soft) at Jiu Jiu and try to hit his forehead. After which you can guess what Jiu Jiu does
 
Anyway, Yongren knows this song (with actions) in part:
                    
My God is so BIG!
My God is so BIG!
So STRONG and so MIGHTY
There's nothing my God cannot do.. for me!
 
My God is so BIG!
So STRONG and so MIGHTY
There's nothing my God cannot do.. for me!
 
The mountains are His, the valleys are His,
The stars are His handiworks too.
 
My God is so BIG!
So STRONG and so MIGHTY
There's nothing my God cannot do.. for me!
             


Sending Wang Li off at the Airport - 11 Jul 2008


From left to right: Friend of WL, Sis Grace, Auntie Adeline, Wang Li, Diana, Daphne and me.

Wang Li visited our church recently during the evangelistic meeting and the next day accepted the Lord Jesus Christ as her Lord and Saviour. God has put a special love in our hearts for her as she is going through difficult times and facing trials in her life. Expecting a girl, she also faces some unhappiness from her husband. Hence, a burden came upon me one morning to ask some mothers of girls to encourage her by contributing some clothes and writing some words to her. These mothers (who have not known her personally) were so wonderful! They gave their daughter's 2nd hand clothes and even new ones generously to her and wrote messages of encouragment to her. A few of us also visited her and with words of wisdom, Sis Grace and Auntie Adeline helped her look to Christ and stand firm in her walk. Through this young lady, I realised again how important the ministry of visitation, prayer and service is. She is 36 weeks pregnant and has to make a tiring and risky trip back to China to deliver her baby. Covering her in prayers and love, we entrusted her in the hands of our Almighty God who will surely give her a safe passage back home. We look forward to the day she returns.

Psalm 20:7 
Some trust in
chariots and some in
horses,
   
but we trust in the name of the LORD our God.

 

A Visit to Mingren's Niche- 9 Jul 2008

Mingren's ashes

 Installation (8 Jul 2008)


Yongren pasting stickers

More stickers

The 3 brothers

With Daddy

Yongren making himself comfortable

The identical twin brothers

Mingren's niche beautified with love


Words cannot describe how we really felt upon visiting Mingren's niche as a family. Feelings of joy in the midst of sadness, feelings of victory in the midst of defeat. One thing we know for sure, Mingren is in the wondrous presence of our Almighty God and Saviour. To live is Christ, to die is gain!
 
My husband and I decided that it is important for us to bring the children to visit Mingren's niche regularly so that we and our children will not forget that they have a brother (who looks just like Weiren) who fought a good fight and is now in heaven. And through his life, the Lord has shown mercies and faithfulness proclaimed in Lam 3:23. Mingren's life should have ceased in the womb, but the Lord's hand of mercies day after day brought him life to this earth. We fully believe in faith that God has power to heal and deliver him. Indeed He did for 6 difficult weeks. Yet God's purpose and perfect plan was to take him home. We submit to the Lord's will and hold no anger or bitterness against Him. How can we when He has been so forgiving and faithful towards us? Weiren's life is a reflection of God's great faithfulness. He could have ceased to live too should God take Mingren home in the womb. Yet now we have an adorable little boy whom the Lord freely gave us. Praise be to God

Updates for past one month - 6 Jul 2008

Family photos!
These photos were taken at different times. I think Yongren is beginning to realise that he is an older brother and Weiren is his younger brother. Sometimes he'll ask to carry Weiren and "piggy bag" him around! It's such a joy to see him kiss his baby brother. Sharing is still something Yongren is grappling with. To share is such a big sacrifice for him and he finds it hard to do so at times. I'm thankful that when he's told to obey in sharing, he does so. It is often a hard as a mother to be firm as he'll protest and cry and pout initially. But when he finally obeys (he knows disobedience will lead to a consequence), he finds it easier to share the next time. The verses I'm using now are:
"Be kind to one another..."Eph 4:32 and "Love one another" John 15:12. We truly need the Lord's help to obey Him!
 

Didi on gege shoulders

Weiren

The two brothers

  
A visit to Joann's place
Great time catching up with one another! Joann is due to give birth to a baby boy soon! What an amazing testimony of God's protection and providence in carrying her through chemotherapy and keeping her and baby strong in Him. Another happy occasion: Dency is back! She's carrying Weiren in the photo below. Hannah with Chiao Chyi, Christoph with Karen, Sarah was sleeping. So here we have... the fellowship of the Young Mothers.
 

Like mother like daughter 

Cristopth standing! 

Friends...



Yongren's friends..

Benaiah and Amadeus 

A new friend.. Gideon


Benaiah and Amadeus are brothers, sons of Allan and Karen (our dear church friends). May they grow up to be fine young boys and men who will love God and each other!

Gideon is son of Weng Han (my colleague). After some ice-cream, running around and playing WII, the two boys seem to hit off quite well!

Weiren's friends...

Cristoph on the left 

Dana in pink

        
Cristoph is the youngest brother of Benaiah and Amadeus. He's a giant baby with a giant voice! His name means "Follower of Christ".

Dana is daughter of Angie (my ex-colleague). She's such a pretty girl and brought much joy to the family :)

A day at botanical gardens
Let's go feed the fish! Yongren was hugging a packet of bread in the car as we went there, thoughts of feeding the fish must have been in his mind. Yin Yin was our chauffeur and camera woman! We had a great time watching the fish gobble up the food. We saw huge orange fish and catfish and long-neck turtle. Yongren also became fascinated at throwing bread at birds. Lovely weather.

Looking cool... 

Fish fish, where r u?

Ducks!... no, i mean swans!


 

Don't you think he looked like Gongfu Panda? 

Big Jackfruits!



Weiren turns 3 months - 4 Jun 2008
 
Psalm 9:1-2, 9-10
I will give thanks to the LORD with my whole heart;
I will recount all of your wonderful deeds.
I will be glad and exult in You;
I will sing praise to Your name, O Most High.

The LORD is a stronghold for the oppressed,
A stronghold in times of trouble.
And those who know Your name put their trust in You,
For You, O LORD, have not forsaken those who seek You.

Looking back at the events of Weiren and Mingren's birth, we thank our Lord for all lessons learnt, for all answered prayers, for all mercies and grace He has so graciously poured in our lives. We are excited and still learning about our Lord and what it means to trust Him each day. 

Weiren's milestones so far:
1. Birth at 1.1 kg on 4 March 2008 (Gestation 28 weeks)
2. Successful heart operation to close fetal heart vessel on 1 April
3. Overcame infection in his intestines
4. Discharged from hospital on 9 May (Welcome home!) weighing 2.28 kg
5. Turned 3 months old today! (weighing at least 3.5 kg)

Thanks to God for giving him good growth. Seeing him grow each day is such a joy!

Taking care of 2 children now is quite a learning experience for me. Specifically, I'm still grappling with how to raise up my children and manage with the growth spurt Weiren is undergoing these days. Weiren's demand of milk is not very regular. Sometimes 2 hours, sometimes 3 hours. Recently he demands every hour. I'm trying to eat and drink more to keep up with his demands. Yongren do get jealous and upset when he sees me carrying Weiren too long. He'll ask me to carry him when he sees me nursing him. I'm also trying to talk to Yongren more these few days and listen to him express his feelings (fear of water pouring over his head, wanting to play with his favourite box of flashcards at bedtime, refusing to sit on the potty etc). At the same time I need the Lord's wisdom to teach and train him to be obedient to his parents, to respect his grandparents, and love his little brother. It is a constant reminder to me that the most important lesson for Yongren is to love God and obey Him. Sometimes I feel that it is so difficult. May God give me the strength, patience, love and wisdom to do so. Some homework to do searching God's Word...

Eph 6:1 Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. "Honor your father and mother"—which is the first commandment with a promise— "that it may go well with you and that you may enjoy long life on the earth."

Lev 19:32 'Rise in the presence of the aged, show respect for the elderly and revere your God. I am the LORD.

1 John 4:7-12 "Beloved, let us love one another, for love is from God, and whoever loves has been born of God and knows God. Anyone who does not love does not know God, because God is love. 9In this the love of God was made manifest among us, that God sent his only Son into the world, so that we might live through him. In this is love, not that we have loved God but that he loved us and sent his Son to be the propitiation for our sins. Beloved, if God so loved us, we also ought to love one another. No one has ever seen God; if we love one another, God abides in us and his love is perfected in us."

1 John 5:2-3 "By this we know that we love the children of God, when we love God and obey his commandments. For this is the love of God, that we keep his commandments. And his commandments are not burdensome."
 
  
 

A Day of Outdoors - 19 May 2008
Yongren is such a bundle of energy that his grandparents (my parents) decided to bring him out for a walk at Mac Ritchie Reservior in the morning. But that's not all. In the evening, my husband and my dad brought him to swim. Yongren was fascinated by stones (that's his new hobby: collecting stones) while walking. He's still quite fearful of water getting above his head and it was a warm and humourous sight to see two grown men trying to encourage him to walk through the baby pool.
 
 Yongren holding onto his stones tightly              With gong gong and popo

  
At an old phone booth             Daddy!               Walking along the drain

 


Weiren is home!
Our website has been hacked previously (again we do not understand why the hacker hacked a non-profit website, deleted our contents and added some virus. Apologies to readers who might have their computer infected). Hence, I was not able to update the website for quite a few days. The busy-ness of Weiren being home and Yongren needing alot of attention also prevented me from having time to do so.

Weiren came back home on the 9 May! It was a specific answer to our prayers and we are grateful that God answered so surely. Weiren has been growing well, eating well, sleeping well, passing urine and bowels well!

We had a "Welcome Home" party the next day for everyone in our family.

Welcome Home Weiren!
Love ,
Yeye, Grandmama, Gong gong, Popo, Da Bo (Uncle Benson), Gugu (Auntie Sharon), Uncle Ben, Jiujiu (Uncle Lye Sheng), Jiu mu (Auntie Rachel), Daddy, Mummy & Gege (Yongren).

  
     Grandmama                  Daddy, Yongren, Weiren, Grandmama         Yeye, Weiren, Yongren, Daddy

 
    Mummy, Yongren, Weiren, Daddy            Da Bo, Yeye, Yongren, Daddy

 
             Gugu and Weiren                                             Weiren

 
   Gong gong and Weiren                                                                    Weiren

 
         Yeye, Yongren and Daddy                                   Weiren

 
    Mummy, Yongren, Weiren, Daddy           Yongren eating off Mummy's plate

Thank you Doctors and Nurses of SGH, NICU
 
       Dr. Lian Wee Bin & Dr. Yeo Cheo Lian                    Dr. Poon, Dr. Mas, Dr. Selina Ho, Dr. Varsha

Also thanks to Dr. Daisy Chan who is not in the picture.

 
             Nurses of the NICU (Also thanks to all other nurses who are not present)

So far, nurses whose names I can remember are: Adeline, Esther, Hwee Ling, Nurse Chang, Nurse Chan, Nurse Toh, Nurse Tay, Linda, Sharon, Nevi, Ying Yue, Summer. Although I cannot remember / do not know some of the nurses names, their faces will always remain familiar and warm to my family.


MOs' last day - 4 May
 
Found out from Dr Sabrina that today is the last day for the Medical Officers (MO). I quickly grabbed her for a photo! (Thankfully I brought my camera that night). I felt a sense of sadness when I heard it... they have journeyed with us and the twins for so long... 6 weeks with Mingren, 2 months with Weiren. Well, perhaps we can say our farewell here to you: Dr Imelda, Dr Swee Jin, Dr Chong and Dr Sabrina. We wish you all the best in wherever you go. Perhaps our paths might cross again.. with Weiren grown up!

Weiren's progress at 2 months old:
 
 

The Lord is gracious and merciful - 3 May

Weight: 2230 g
Milk: 20 ml
It is such a joy to see Weiren growing well and taking the milk well. We truly thank God for His hand of protection and strength on him. I realised that sometimes I really take life for granted. I have eyes that can see, mouth that can eat and talk, ears that can hear, all parts of my organs are functioning, no fingers or toes are missing. My time with Mingren taught me again that I must not take things for granted. Weiren has a neighbour, baby girl, in the HD (high dependency) who is full term but has problems sucking. So drinking milk is extremely difficult for her; she needed a tube to feed. Like all parents, it brings heartache to see a beautiful baby who looks well but is not well. May God be merciful to this little girl and heal her, that she may start to suck day by day.

Psalm 145:8-9, 14-20
The LORD is gracious and merciful,
slow to anger and abounding in steadfast love.
The LORD is good to all,
and His mercy is over all that he has made.

The LORD upholds all who are falling
and raises up all who are bowed down.
The eyes of all look to You,
and you give them their food in due season.
You open Your hand;
You satisfy the desire of every living thing.

The LORD is righteous in all His ways
and kind in all His works.
The LORD is near to all who call on Him,
to all who call on Him in truth.
He fulfills the desire of those who fear Him;
He also hears their cry and saves them.
The LORD preserves all who love Him,
but all the wicked He will destroy."

Yesterday, I reached the hospital when the nurses were going to start feed. So imagine how happy I was when nurse Nevi asked me to feed him with the bottle! It was my first time! He was cosy in my arms, and I could sing to him, talk to him, pray for him. I also had the chance to change his dirty diapers .

Photos taken on 2 May:
   
    Happy mummy :)                 Weiren's sleeping peacefully

Photo taken few days ago: 

     Daddy and mummy with Weiren

Yongren posing with mummy - 30 Apr
My husband and I went dinner with Nutz and Anna. We happily took Yongren along and he had a great time eating with us. Here's a little pose with me!

Weiren's progress - 30 Apr
He was finally taken off antibiotics on sunday, but his guts were given a rest from milk till today.
Weight: 2100 g
Milk: 5 ml
Thank God for growing him and for His healing hand! We again commit Weiren to the Lord and trust Him to strengthen him. We pray that God will help Weiren to digest the milk well and to be able to suck the milk well when it's time for him to try the bottle. Eventually, we hope to train him to feed directly from mummy.


Photos taken on 27 Apr:
  
Nurse carried him up for a photo shoot           Lying down sideways                     Close up
 
    Long line inserted at his left leg                     Little hand held by a clip
 
Photos taken on 30 Apr:
  
This is a rare occasion to see him open his eyes and looking around. (right, up, left..)    
Looking around surely took alot of concentration from him! He dozed off after a while.

Visiting the Sims - 28 Apr
Yongren and I went to pick up a cd of photos of Mingren's memorial service at David and Angie's place. What a nice visit Yongren had at their place playing with their daughter Dana, eating jelly and playing with their dogs and throwing stones into the water feature. Yongren kept saying "mei mei" and mummy was so happy to see him pat Dana gently. My regret is not taking photos that day!

Weiren growing - 25 Apr
Each time we visit Weiren, he sleeps soundly and doesn't like us to disturb him. (hee hee). I recently bought a pacifier for him as he can't drink milk for the time being and cries. Sucking the pacifier also exercises his jaws and sucking capabilities.

Weiren is still on antibiotics and the doctors have decided to prolong the treatment to 14 days. Which means he still has 5 more days. His intestines still look fuzzy from the X ray and he esperated out some brownish substance before, but has cleared. Doctors analysed his blood and found that some clotting factors are not there, so they're replacing it. His blood is also anemic so he will have some blood transfusion today. Well, a good report is that he has been putting on weight each day and weighs 1925g today. We will not lose heart, but pray to the Lord to heal and take care of him. 

Philippians 4:6-7
"Do not be anxious about anything,
but in everything by prayer and supplication
with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God.
And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding,
will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus."


  

 
Photos at Mingren's Memorial Service - 23 Apr
These photos were beautifully taken by my dear friend Angie's husband, David. They went through the loss of their children and yet ministered to us with their gifts of service, offering to take photos for our memory's sake. My husband and I are deeply touched and blessed. Thank you Angie and David. 


 
 


Updates - 22 Apr
Today we went to take a look at a Columbarium at Faith Methodist Church (suggested by my Pa). Quite a nice peaceful place. Take a look at it here: http://www.faithmc.org/content/view/19/108/

Last Wednesday, Weiren vomitted twice and the doctors are putting him on antibiotics to counter any infection in his stomach. His infection is not very serious and doctors are being very careful with him. Currently he is off milk and on nutritional drip. Timely too because I fell sick and needed to be on antibiotics myself. Which means my milk cannot be used for him these few days while I'm on medication. Well, today marks the last day my milk cannot be used! And I pray that he can go on milk again soon! My family continues to pray for God's healing hand to be upon him.
 
He has put on weight too - 1825g. Wow! He is growing well. The next milestone for him is to go back to milk and learn how to suckle and drink from the bottle. There might be some weight loss during that time as sucking from the bottle will take energy from him. I await the day he can come home.
 
We have been telling Yongren that he has 2 "didi"s. One is now in heaven. The other is in the hospital and he'll be coming home soon. He is still trying to grapple with things like sharing his toys with his didi and being an older brother.   
 

"I shall go to him, but he will not return to me." - 18 Apr

Yesterday evening marks the closure of Mingren's life on this earth. We are truly grateful for all who went to Mandai Crematorium and supported us with your friendship and presence. We were truly overwhelmed to see all of you and our hearts are deeply touched.
 
On the day God took Mingren home to be with Him in heaven, my husband and I clinged onto God as how Jacob did not let God go. We pleaded and cried out to God with all our hearts and strength, singing songs and reading Psalms, that God may show His mercies one more time and deliver him. We know confidently that we have a God who can answer prayers as He has been answering so many prayers.. from Mingren's conception, his life on this earth, his countless encounters at the brink of death and God showed forth His power and grace and gave him life. God was even so good to give our family and friends the hours to see him one last time before taking him home. 
 
God also answered pleas and prayers of taking care of my friends during this period of time: Sparing Joann's life, growing her baby in her womb while she undergoes chemotheraphy, bringing salvation to Xiao Wei and Mrs Yeo, bringing my dear friend Karen back to seek the Lord, keeping her baby in her womb one more week that she may come to church one more sunday, helping my best friend Cecilia find her dog Titan who ran away from home. God also showed me that He can do the impossible and give strength to those in need. My grandfather who is 86 years old found new love and grace to take care of my grandmother (wow!). Sister Catherine who experienced the loss of her husband Bro John Lai had the glow of hope on her face after days of weeping. When she came for Mingren's memorial service, the glow on her face that we'll reunite with our loved ones in heaven was evident.
 
Don't we have a God who answers prayers according to His perfect will, according to His mercy and grace? Amen! We serve a risen Saviour and living God! Let nothing stand between us and the Lord. Only Surrender all to Him!
 
2 Samuel 12:15-23
And the LORD afflicted the child that Uriah’s wife bore to David, and he became sick. David therefore sought God on behalf of the child. And David fasted and went in and lay all night on the ground. And the elders of his house stood beside him, to raise him from the ground, but he would not, nor did he eat food with them. On the seventh day the child died. And the servants of David were afraid to tell him that the child was dead, for they said, "Behold, while the child was yet alive, we spoke to him, and he did not listen to us. How then can we say to him the child is dead? He may do himself some harm." But when David saw that his servants were whispering together, David understood that the child was dead. And David said to his servants, "Is the child dead?" They said, "He is dead." Then David arose from the earth and washed and anointed himself and changed his clothes. And he went into the house of the LORD and worshiped. He then went to his own house. And when he asked, they set food before him, and he ate. Then his servants said to him, "What is this thing that you have done? You fasted and wept for the child while he was alive; but when the child died, you arose and ate food." He said, "While the child was still alive, I fasted and wept, for I said, 'Who knows whether the LORD will be gracious to me, that the child may live?' But now he is dead. Why should I fast? Can I bring him back again? I shall go to him, but he will not return to me."
 
 

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